Celebrate all that is you - choose joy

Celebrate all that is you - choose joy


The word “joy” is one we tend to hear more frequently this time of year. We are trying to find it, give it, have it, keep it, and not take it for granted. Joyful songs, joyful memories, and joyful holiday moments are all things we look forward to, but it wasn’t until I  stumbled upon a poem by Donna Ashworth that I thought maybe we’re missing it more than we think. Donna’s poem talks about how we sometimes, unknowingly ignore joy because it doesn’t show up the way we expected it to. That it sneaks into our lives while we are SO busy making plans to locate it. She shares the idea that joy chooses us, not the other way around. So, we wanted to share her beautiful words in case they resonate with you too.


Joy Chose You

 Joy does not arrive with fanfare, on a red carpet strewn with flowers of a perfect life.

Joy sneaks in, as you pour your cup of coffee, watching the sun hit your favorite tree, just right.

And you usher joy away because you are not ready for it.

Your house is not as it must be for such a distinguished guest.

But joy cares nothing for your messy home or your bank balance or your waistline, you see.

Joy is supposed to slither through the cracks of your imperfect life, that’s how joy works.

You cannot invite her, you can only be ready when she appears.

 And hug her with meaning, because in this very moment, joy chose you.

~Donna Ashworth


There is something so very peaceful about this interpretation of joy! As you move through the hustle and bustle of December, go ahead and sing your heart out in the car (bonus points for embarrassing your kids) or snort laugh if the moment calls for it. If we wait to feel joy in the depths of our souls, we might miss a lot of the good stuff.  

Breath is an an effective way to be in the moment.  We can't breath in the past and we can't breath in the future so take a big deep breath to remind yourself you are here right now.  

Alan Watt's describes being in the Moment Succinctly 



Now that you are lit from within 🤗, let’s radiate joy on the outside.  How you dress your mood and mindset are interwoven. Is your wardrobe lacking a little pizzaz?  If you want to add some sparkle and razzle dazzle to your wardrobe check out the collection of eluroom dresses.  Based on classic shapes with a focus on fabric that feels beautiful and caress your skin. You can style the pieces up or down and layer in so many ways so you can wear 7 days a week  52 weeks of the year.  A wardrobe staple.  

 Ilu is a maxi shirt dress and here are some ways to style it.

Red sparkle pumps

Whistles sheepskin gilet

The Row maxi coat

Style Imu maxi shirt dress in silver ways of wearing with a Whistles Sheepskin Gilet, red sparkle pumps and a The Row long wool coat

Style Ilu maxi shirt dress 

White Chelsea boots Grenson

Faux fur long coat Zadig & Volaire

Army style jacket

Ilu maxi shirt dress in sunset camouflage with white Grenson Chelsea boots Army style Jacket and Faux fur coat

Style Ilu maxi dress in celestial sunrise

Burberry metallic mac

Whistles sheepskin gilet

Isobel Marant metallic boots

Style Ilu maxi shirt dress in celestial sunrise with Whistles sheepskin gilet Isobel Marant metallic boots Burberry metallic mac


Top 5 FAQs About Finding Joy in the Everyday

1. Why do we struggle to find joy during the holidays?

The author suggests we might be looking for joy in the wrong places or expecting it to arrive in a grand way. The constant pressure to create a perfect holiday experience can overshadow the simple joys of the season.

2. What is Donna Ashworth's poem about?

The poem "Joy Chose You" by Donna Ashworth suggests joy sneaks into our lives unexpectedly, often while we're busy searching for it. Joy doesn't care about our imperfections and chooses us, rather than the other way around.

3. How can I be more present and appreciate the little things?

The blog post mentions focusing on your breath as a way to be mindful of the present moment. Since we can't breathe in the past or future, it helps ground you in the now.

4. Isn't true joy a deep emotional state? Can it come from simple things?

Absolutely! The blog encourages embracing small moments of joy, like singing in the car or laughing wholeheartedly.These little bursts can contribute to overall well-being.

5. The blog mentions clothes and improving my wardrobe. Is that really necessary to find joy?

The connection between how you dress and your mood. While not essential for finding joy, Eluroom dresses are mentioned as a way to add a touch of sparkle and express yourself through fashion. However, the core message focuses on appreciating the present moment and the simple joys in life.



Rebecca Rodden wearing elama the shirt dress in sunset camo

Rebecca Rodden founder of the Fashion Lifestyle Brand ‘Eluroom’


She brings wealth and knowledge in the Fashion Industry, Spanning 20 years working her way up to Buying Director at a British Luxury Retail Company.


Her knowledge and skills of how and what you wear can set your mood or mindset for the day has become her specialty.


Rebecca, designs her own sustainable fashion dresses and incorporates mindfulness and wellbeing in her brand ethics to connect to her customers on a deeper level.


She promotes ‘Living with Joy’


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