How to Dress with Confidence in Midlife and Feel Amazing

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Midlife can be a daunting time for many, as it can bring up insecurities and a loss of confidence. But it doesn't have to be that way! With the right wardrobe and a few tips and tricks, you can start feeling amazing and dressing with confidence in midlife and beyond. By understanding the basics of your body shape, finding the right colours and fabrics to flatter your figure, and building a wardrobe that works for your lifestyle, you can start feeling stylish, comfortable, and confident in no time. With the right attitude and a bit of know-how, you can look and feel your best, no matter your age.

Understand Your Body Shape

When it comes to dressing with confidence, the key is understanding and embracing your body shape. Knowing what you love about your body and making the most it by choosing clothing that flatters your silhouette and works for your lifestyle. When shopping for clothes, keep an eye out for items that balance out your features, such as a fitted blazer to streamline a fuller bust or high-waisted jeans to create an hourglass shape. As a yoga teacher I can assure that no two bodies are the same, so don’t be afraid to experiment until you find what works best for you. 

Find the Right Colours and Fabrics

to Flatter Your Figure When it comes to dressing with confidence in midlife, the right colours and fabrics make all the difference. Start by understanding your body shape and size, you already know what you want to make the most. Comfort is key, look for fabrics that drape comfortably over your figure, a silken like finish. Choose weight which are versatile so you can easily layer, accentuates your best features with a little structure but no so much that it wears you. You can also play up certain features of your body shape by choosing clothing with details like pleats, ruffles, or pockets. I can't leave home without a pocket!  Colour is important and for me one of the most fund ways to express yourself, add confidence and a boost of joy.  Read all about the power of colour

Build a Wardrobe That Works for you

When it comes to dressing with confidence in midlife, building a wardrobe that works for you is key. Look at what you already have.  Do you know 80% of our wardrobe goes unworn? Start by assessing your lifestyle. Like everything in life it has changed.  Does your wardrobe meet your needs? Consider how much time and energy you want to dedicate to your wardrobe each day - do you want something low-maintenance, or are you willing to put in a little extra effort? Take stock of any items that already work for your body shape and colouring. You can do this by noting what you wear in an average week.  Hang is on a different hanger or fold in a different place.  What do you love about these pieces and how they work for you?  These are your wardrobe essentials.  Determine what pieces need replacing. You will also get an idea of what is missing, You  can start shopping for items that flatter your body shape while still expressing your personal style. When shopping online or in stores, take note of how each item fits and looks on you - if it doesn't fit quite right or feel comfortable, don't buy it! 

Make Sure Your Clothes Fit

One of the most important things to consider when dressing with confidence is making sure your clothes fit properly. You don't want clothes that are too tight or too loose - they just won't hang right and will make you feel uncomfortable. Nothing worse than spending a day wanting to take something off as it's pinching, itchy or keeps slipping down.  Try or buy a few sizes, sizing is totally unstandardised never hold yourself to being a size x all your life in everything. When it comes to fit, comfort should always come first!

Accessorise With Confidence

You know my mantra metallics are a neutral.  What better place to start then with accessories to turn the fine into fab.  Focus a on a few key/statement pieces.   Statement pieces like scarves, necklaces, or a great pair of earrings will help to bring your outfit together. If you are feeling bold or want to try a new colour, try out some statement accessories such as a bright belt or shoes. These can be especially effective when transforming a desk to dinner look.  Flats to heels, a bold necklace.  Job done. Accessories a fun way express yourself and show off your personality!

When it comes to dressing with confidence in midlife, quality is more important than quantity. Investing in a few key pieces that fit well and flatter your figure will always look better than a closet full of ill-fitting, low-quality clothing. When you find clothes that you love, take the time to make sure they fit perfectly before buying them. If necessary, get them tailored so they fit your body shape exactly. You'll be amazed at how much more confident and stylish you feel when you wear properly fitting clothes! Focus on finding timeless pieces that can be worn season after season. Look for classic items like blazers, trousers, skirts, and dresses that are made with high-quality materials such as leather, wool or silk. Building a wardrobe based on these essentials will ensure that you're always looking your best.By focusing on quality over quantity, investing in timeless pieces that never go out of style, and building a wardrobe tailored to your lifestyle needs, you can start dressing with confidence in midlife.

Get Inspiration From Others

When it comes to dressing there are no rules.  You can have so much fun exploring what you like. Whether you’re looking to celebrity fashion trends or browsing through instagram, there are countless sources of inspiration out there. You can use these as a starting point for creating your own look, while still staying true to yourself. Bear in mind what you love about your body and want to make the most of and its as simple as a pinterest search using those word, it’s important to be inspired but don’t compare yourself to others – just focus on what works for you!

Embrace Your Style

The best way to start dressing with confidence in midlife is to embrace your personal style. Don’t be afraid to experiment and have fun when creating your wardrobe. Figure out what you like and what looks good on you – it doesn’t have to look the same as everyone else! Find colours, patterns, and cuts that flatter your figure and make you feel comfortable. Don’t be afraid to mix it up - try new things, layer pieces together, add accessories, and get creative with how you dress. If you are not sure about your style take this fun quiz to find out.

Be Comfortable With Who You Are

From all my years in fashion I have come to know that how your dress your mood and mindset are interwoven.  The key to dressing with confidence in midlife is being comfortable with who you are. Remember that your age doesn't define you and that you should always stay true to your own personal style. Don't be afraid to experiment with different trends, but don’t feel pressured to dress a certain way just because it's "in".  A wardrobe of clothes you love goes a long way to being comfortable with yourself and feeling confident about the way you look will help boost your overall self-confidence.  Knowing you can put something on and be ready for anything.  It's why I created the eluroom dress collection to help you feel amazing. 

Have Fun With Your Look

The most important part of dressing with confidence in midlife is to have fun with it. Don’t be afraid to try new things and experiment with your look. After all, midlife is the perfect time to show off your personality and express yourself through fashion. Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and try something new or daring. It’s a great way to re-energise your wardrobe and start feeling amazing in no time. Play around with different silhouettes, colours, fabrics, patterns, and textures until you find something that truly represents who you are and makes you feel amazing. The best part? You don’t have to break the bank doing it! With a few smart shopping decisions, as well as some creative DIY hacks, you can curate a wardrobe that speaks volumes without breaking the bank.  Gone are the days of having nothing to wear.



Top 7 FAQs About Dressing with Confidence in Midlife

1. What are the most important things to consider when choosing clothes that flatter my figure?

  • Body Shape and Size: Understand your body shape and choose clothes that accentuate your best features. Opt for comfortable fabrics that drape well and flatter your silhouette.
  • Color and Fabric Weight: Choose colors that complement your complexion and fabrics with weights that are versatile for layering.

2. I already have a closet full of clothes, but I never wear most of them. What should I do?

  • Evaluate Your Lifestyle: Assess your current lifestyle and how it's changed over time. Does your wardrobe meet your needs now?
  • Identify Your Staples: Take stock of what you already wear and love. These are your wardrobe essentials.
  • Fill in the Gaps: Determine what pieces you need to replace or add to create a more functional wardrobe.

3. How can I ensure my clothes fit properly?

  • Try Before You Buy: Always try on clothes before purchasing to ensure a proper fit. Don't rely solely on size labels, as sizing can vary greatly.
  • Comfort is Key: Clothes should fit comfortably without being too tight or too loose. You should feel confident and at ease in what you're wearing.

4. How can I use accessories to elevate my look?

  • Statement Pieces: Focus on a few key statement accessories like scarves, necklaces, or earrings to add personality and polish to your outfit.
  • Transforming Looks: Utilize accessories to transition outfits from casual to dressy.
  • Self-Expression: Accessories are a fun way to showcase your unique style and personality.

5. Should I follow fashion trends?

  • Inspiration Only: Trends can be a source of inspiration, but don't feel pressured to follow them blindly. Adapt trends to suit your personal style and what flatters you most.
  • Quality Over Quantity: Invest in high-quality pieces that are timeless and can be worn for multiple seasons.

6. How can I find inspiration for creating my own style?

  • Explore Different Sources: Look to celebrities, fashion bloggers on Instagram, or magazines for inspiration.
  • Embrace What You Love: Find colors, patterns, and cuts that flatter your figure and make you feel good. Don't be afraid to experiment and have fun!

7. Confidence is key, but how do I embrace my personal style at this stage in life?

  • Be Comfortable in Your Skin: Confidence comes from self-acceptance. Embrace who you are and what makes you unique.
  • Stay True to Yourself: Don't chase trends just because they're popular. Experiment and find a style that reflects your personality.
  • Love What You Wear: A wardrobe filled with clothes you love can significantly boost your confidence.

Rebecca Rodden wearing elama shirt dress in sunset camo

Rebecca Rodden founder of the Fashion Lifestyle Brand ‘Eluroom’


She brings wealth and knowledge in the Fashion Industry, Spanning 20 years working her way up to Buying Director at a British Luxury Retail Company.


Her knowledge and skills of how and what you wear can set your mood or mindset for the day has become her specialty.


Rebecca, designs her own sustainable fashion dresses and incorporates mindfulness and wellbeing in her brand ethics to connect to her customers on a deeper level.


She promotes ‘Living with Joy’


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