The True Glow Up: Finding Joy by Looking Outward

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'The real glow up is internal'

Have you heard the quote?  The idea being that when we good about ourselves we look good.  We radiate joy.

Some say the first step starts from within.  In theory this sounds great, easy hey?!  But some things are easier said than done.


I must confess more often than not being 'with myself' can be the hardest thing in the world.

When I look back on my happiest moments I was not thinking about myself.  I was immersed in the moment, just me and universe dancing together.

How about you?

Why are we not really there?  

Instead of focusing so much on ‘I’, maybe we should pay more attention to people and things other than ourselves. Often, this is where the most beautiful moments are born. Often, they are born when we notice the aroma's of the food,  ambience of the room, or when we notice how beautiful someone’s smile is, or when we are so engaged in a conversation that the to do list disappears.

It's finding ways to distract yourself from yourself.

Ways to do this

Movement - dance.  Play your favourite song and dance like no one is watching.  I did this everyday over holidays.  It's such a wonderful release and stirs up so many happy memories.  This is one of my favourites

Meditation - try this one which takes minutes and draws you in to the moment.  A chance to check in with where you are and set and intention for where you want to be.  

Try something new.  Last week I shared with you the cacao drink as a new way to 'treat' myself as the nights draw in.

Another way to do this is with dressing.  The change of season brings an opportunity to mix things up.   

What are your favourite pieces? 

Is there a new colour you are drawn to?

How could you include this in your wardrobe?  

Do you have your wardrobe essentials covered?

Explore - layers, colours.

Remember there are no rules 

If you like it wear it

Happiness and joy are not inside our heads. Often, the moments that make life worth living are outside. They are found by saying ‘yes’ to the life being created now. They are found by accepting the universe’s hand as we dance with it in this very moment, in spite of everything.


Top 7 Questions About Finding Joy by Looking Outward:

1. Why is it sometimes hard to be present with ourselves?

Our minds can be busy places! We get caught up in self-criticism, to-do lists, and future worries. Being present requires quieting the mental chatter and connecting with the here and now.

2. How can I experience more joy in daily life?

Shift your focus from "me" to "we." The most beautiful moments often arise from connecting with others, appreciating the world around you, and losing yourself in the present experience.

3. What are some ways to distract myself from myself?

  • Move your body! Dance like nobody's watching! Movement is a fantastic way to release endorphins and lift your mood.
  • Practice mindfulness. Even a short meditation can help you focus on the present moment and appreciate the little things.
  • Embrace new experiences. Trying something new, like a delicious drink or a fresh outfit, can be a fun way to break out of your routine.

4. Isn't fashion all about self-expression? Why does the blog mention not focusing on "me"?

Fashion can absolutely be a form of self-expression. However, the joy comes from the experience of exploring new styles, experimenting with color, and finding pieces that make you feel confident. It's about the process, not just the end result.

5. Are there any rules in fashion?

Not anymore! Wear what makes you feel good and what reflects your unique personality.

6. How can I find happiness and joy?

Look around you! Happiness is often found in the simple things - the aroma of food, the beauty of a smile, or the flow of a captivating conversation. Be present and appreciate the world you inhabit.

7. The universe's hand? What does that mean?

Think of life as a dance. Embrace the present moment, even the unexpected turns, and find joy in the journey.

Bonus Tip: Say "yes" to new experiences! Step outside your comfort zone and explore the possibilities. The most beautiful moments in life are often waiting to be discovered.


Rebecca Rodden wearing elama shirt dress in sunset camo

Rebecca Rodden founder of the Fashion Lifestyle Brand ‘Eluroom’


She brings wealth and knowledge in the Fashion Industry, Spanning 20 years working her way up to Buying Director at a British Luxury Retail Company.


Her knowledge and skills of how and what you wear can set your mood or mindset for the day has become her specialty.


Rebecca, designs her own sustainable fashion dresses and incorporates mindfulness and wellbeing in her brand ethics to connect to her customers on a deeper level.


She promotes ‘Living with Joy’



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